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What do you do when life, the Universe, and everything seem to get in your way? My response is to try and write it out. Writing is especially useful for expressing grief and grief is on my mind as I lost my only sister three weeks ago tomorrow.
Grief interferes with your life. It prevents you from doing things if it is not properly expressed because it is always there at the back of your mind. Grief is a universal phenomenon. Everyone who loses someone close to them has to cope with the emotion of grief. Our universe is not well set up to help us with this. We can hope that we will meet that person again but there are no concrete guarantees.
When you first lose someone your grief colors everything that you see and do. It also makes you less capable in the ordinary everyday things. You lose stuff, you drop things and you forget important engagements. Luckily grief is a process and once you have gone through that process life becomes easier.
Things might never be the same but you can speak and write about that person with joy rather than sadness. I find that writing helps to alter my perspective, albeit slowly, on life the universe and everything.
You can write as much as you
You can write as much as you want, it must be horrible, I only lost 2 grand mothers and for one I didn’t care the least, the other it was much more but still I think I coped well because I was prepared for years, and she’s a grand mother, it’s the normal way.. A sister is not the same, not supposed to die, except if you are already at an old age where death is common.
Anyway, can you sometimes think that you could have never had a sister?
I don’t know what to say, but I feel for you, in such a situation I’d prefer to be the dead one than the surviving one, as I don’t believe in any religion.